[Taken from the September edition of the Church Notes]
Right from the beginning, the Bible is about fathers. “Naturally enough,” you say, given that there is no “be[ing] fruitful and multiplying” without them! Fatherhood is thus a creation ordinance, structured into the very foundation of society, and it is a fundamental and rebellious denial of this creation order to claim that fatherhood is somehow dispensable, or indistinguishable from motherhood. When Adam was created, he was created to be a father, and had he not sinned, he would have been the prefect husband and father, rearing perfect sons, who would have grown up with the blessing of prefect mothers and enjoying the interaction with perfect sisters. (Ah, bliss! But we cannot live on what might have been!) Instead, within a generation we find such brokenness throughout the family and social structure that results in jealousy, deceit and murder, and all in the context of supposedly offering up acceptable worship! (Here is all history, both Church and social, in a nutshell!!).
Yet despite this first sin of Adam & Eve with all its consequences, God did not destroy all that he had made, but rather provided a way of redemption. Grace was promised even as the covenant curses were pronounced. One day, God promised, there would be a son born who would triumph over all this brokenness and undo the effects of the curse. We know that One to be our Lord Jesus Christ.
Well, that takes us to the first three chapters of the Bible. Only 1186 to go! We must expect, therefore, that the rest of the Bible will say lots of things about fatherhood, both godly and ungodly, as it unfolds. So while godliness is never genetic or passed on biologically, we are heartened to see that Genesis goes on to describe a line of godly descendents even as it bluntly describes sin’s descent into further sin.
Noah must have been an extraordinary father and must have had an extraordinarily powerful relationship with his sons. What pressures there must have been through all their growing and grown years to conform to the ungodliness of this world. Yet what a model of practical righteousness they must have seen in their father; a sense of the free presence and grace of God such that Noah and the Lord God communed directly. They would know that Noah, as a result of his knowing and loving God, would have such implicit confidence in the command of God that he would build the ark as directed, and so they also knew that it was right to take his side over the far more popular side of their in-laws [who never made it into the ark] and build with him. Their wives, likewise, must have seen in their father-in-law, something that held them to a living trust in God even though their own fathers refused to go into the ark with them. Godly fathers have influence way beyond their expectations.
Our world is obsessed with the opportunity for individuals to have a “meaningful life” i.e. to find a measure of purpose in life that gives satisfaction to one’s existence. That meaningfulness is suggested in all sorts of ways, but unless that meaningfulness is found in Christ, all such hopes are ultimately doomed to fail. So, fathers, pursue godliness and true holiness. Live as “men of the Book.” Pray for your households, and give them a good example. Model godliness so that sons may copy and improve upon it, and daughters will know what traits they should seek in a husband. All that is impossible without first loving one’s wife as Christ loved the Church, so this is the first step for all husbands, even where there are no children.
No father is perfect and if we could see into the heart as God sees, we would expect that even those who may be held up to us as models of godly fatherhood do [or did] grieve daily for their faults and long for grace to master their sins. And this is precisely the point: grace. The Bible is brutally honest about the failures of godly men, including Noah, not so that we can hold them up to ridicule, but so that we too may learn from them to seek the same grace that redeems and sanctifies, and model it in our daily lives, whether we are fathers or not.