Hawthorn Presbyterian Church

Telling God that Life Hurts—without Whinging

[First published in the Congregational “Notes” for March, 2015]

The word “whinger” is not uniquely Australian, but it has come into the Australian vocabulary to describe someone who regularly complains or protests about things they don’t like, in an annoying or persistent manner. A whinger is usually self-centred and unable to look far beyond himself or herself, and focuses only on how annoyed they are when things don’t happen the way they want them to happen. In the whinger’s mind this is just not fair and someone, perhaps even God is at fault! Whingers often have few friends except perhaps other whingers but “no-one likes a whinger!” But before we get too smug, we have to admit that because we are all sinners with a sinner’s bias to self-centredness, we all have the potential to whinge!

So, what can we do when we find our circumstances in life are hard? Do we ever have warrant to complain? And if we do, how can we tell the difference between a legitimate desire for something better and a whinge? Can we blame God? Well, we must turn again to God’s word to see what He says. We shall find many examples! When God called Moses, he said that he had heard the cry of His people and seen their affliction and would deliver them (Exod 3:7-8). Their cry over many years was quite legitimate; the Egyptians were oppressing God’s chosen people and it hurt! He miraculous delivered them. But Israel soon forgot this and complained bitterly. They whinged. They protested a lack of food, no water and no “comforts” of Egypt. They even said they would rather reject God’s salvation and be slaves again, and all for the sake of some temporary comfort. How foolish! How ungrateful! Hunger and thirst may make us anxious but they should never make us doubt the goodness of God and His love. Not surprisingly, God was moved to anger in response to their ingratitude and lack of faith (Num 14). At other times they whinged when He chastised them for their sins but as Jeremiah wryly observed, there is little point in complaining against God when He punishes sin (Lam 3:39). It only makes the situation worse.

But we do find other complaints in Scripture. The Psalms have many serious cries to God pleading that life often hurts and is unfair.“ Lord, my enemies have increased,” (3:4). “I am weary with my sighing,” (6:6). “Lord why do you stand a far off?” (10:1). “Why have you forsaken me?” (22:1). “Everyone scoffs at us,” (44:13-14). “O God you have rejected us and made our life hard,” (60:1-3) … There are many, many more.

But at the same time as we read of these complaints in the Psalms, God is always (and quite rightly) worshiped and praised as the Sovereign over all things. And, it is only because God is Sovereign that it makes sense to tell Him—not because He does not already know but because ‘somehow’ in giving voice to our uncertainty and pain, it is the best way to show that we acknowledge Him as fully just and completely trust-worthy. These are not the cries of whingers but the legitimate pleas and prayers of those who know that although there might not be any immediate answers, telling God is the only way to begin making sense of our life. Indeed, not to cry out for relief would be to contradict all we know about Him, and all that He is as our Saviour.

Ultimately in this fallen world, only God knows the reason why things happen to us as they do. He knows that sin is destructive and depersonalizing and brings only hurt upon hurt. But He also knows that though the death of His Son, the greatest of unjust “hurts” in the universe, He has made the only provision for sin to be justly overcome, and forever. So, whatever we hurts may come our way, and however puzzling, there is still only one place to take them—to Jesus, not as a whinger, but a worshiper!

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