First published in the monthly congregational “Notes” , May 2015.
In 1877, Charles Spurgeon used the account of Joseph and his brothers as the basis for an address to his Sunday School teachers. Using Reuben’s words in Gen 42:22, “Did I not say, ‘Do not Sin Against the child’?” Spurgeon expanded the words and sought to illustrate how such sin might happen in other situations. His gospel focus is equally relevant for all of us in our day, and not just for Sunday School teachers! What follows is a précis of his address. The full text is available on request.
I speak to every parent, elder brother or sister, schoolmaster, employer, man and woman, whether they have families or not, “Do not sin against the child whether your own child, or anybody’s child, nor against the poor waif of the street whom they call “nobody’s child.” According to the story of Joseph, there are three ways of sinning against the child. The first is described by the brothers’ initial thought to kill Joseph. We may not kill physically, but there is such a thing as “Spiritual” killing.” Do not train him in dishonesty, lying, vice or drunkenness. No one does so deliberately, but many sons are ruined by the bad example of their fathers. The same evil may be committed by indoctrinating children with evil teaching.
There is a second way of sinning against the child. Ruben wanted to leave Joseph in the pit and then go back later to rescue him. This is like the common notion that leaves children alone and unconverted, thinking that it would be better to rescue them later by seeking their conversion when they are adults This should never be charged against us. Our great aim must be that our children are brought to Christ, and parents should seek this with all their hearts! “Why leave your Joseph in the pit?” Those who brought their children into this world of punishment should not be content to leave them there.
The third way of sinning against the child is to sell him to the “Midianite traders” of this world. A good schooling is no reason to give up on Sunday School or parental instruction. Excellence in geography will not get anyone to heaven, and arithmetic cannot remove their many sins. Instead, the more our children learn, the more they will need to learn of the fear of the Lord! We must not sell our children to worldly interests by encouraging them to care more about employment, reputation or the prospect of a good marriage than godliness.
Sometimes a child is sinned against by being disliked. The excuse for undue harshness and severity is, “He is such a strange child!” Do not put down what heavenly thoughts God may be putting in the soul. If they grow up to be distinguished servants of the Lord, your conscience will prick you, when you see what God has done in spite of your neglect. On the other hand, if your child should become an Absalom through your poor example or neglect, it will he a horrible thing to cry, “I slew my child! and when I did it, I knew better, but I disregarded the voice which said to me, ‘Do not sin against the child.’” Others are sinned against by excessive praise which leads only to conceit and vanity. Spoiled children are like spoiled fruit: the less we see of them the better! Do not water your young plants either with vinegar or with syrup. Do not rebuke too much or too little. Seek wisdom of the Lord, and keep the middle of the way.
Do not pick up every little thing against a good child, and throw it at back at them with the accusation “You would not do this if you were a Christian!” I am sure that you who are heads of families still do wrong yourselves, and if your father in heaven were to be as severe with you as you are with the sincere little ones when you are in a bad mood, I am afraid it would go, very hard with you. Be gentle, and kind, and tender, and loving….
This is surely wise counsel. May God give us grace to be worthy of our children.